Why is it that lying is sooo bad? I am not encouraging it I am asking why it hurts people when we lie. “A child will lose no opportunity of cheating. It will pretend to be hungrier than it is, more in danger it really is. It is too small and weak to bully its parents physically, but it uses every psychological weapon at its disposal: lying, cheating deceiving exploiting …” (pg 131). Lying is a device used for ones benefit. We all lie, is something unavoidable, small lie, big lie, good lie, they come in all shapes and sizes. I still do not get it, why it is your friend gets angry with you when you lie, does he have to know every aspect of your life. When we tell the truth, we are becoming vulnerable, foolish exposed to others. Lying is not so bad is protecting us from the outside, and making our lives better full of smiles. Truth hurts, so lie and spare some crying. If my friend asks me if she looks fat, you out of instinct say no, although she may look fat, we protect her from self-starvation and bulimia. In the end, she already knows the answer and she knows we are lying but wants a cheer up so we do it anyway. Did it hurt her? No, it made her feel better.
“Parents, on the other hand, must be alert to cheating and deceiving, and must try not to be fooled by it. This might seem an easy task. If the parent knows that its child is likely to lie about how hungry it is, it might employ the tactic of feeding it a fixed amount and no more, even though the child goes on screaming. One trouble with this is that the child may have not been lying…” (pg131) this brings me back to the 4th or 3rd grade. I hated school, I really did, kids bullying me I was ashamed of myself, so I would lie to my mother and tell her I was sick. I did this so many times that there was a point where she did not believe me and made me go to school anyway. One day I was very sick, and I told her (I used to place my thermometer under a light so it looked like I had fever) I showed her my thermometer and she did not believe me, and made me go to school. When I got to school I threw up and had a very high fever, so they sent me home, in Medellin my school was about 1 hour drive from my house she had to pick me up. When I lied I was protecting myself from a horrible day at school, but my mom could not risk keeping me at home every day while she was paying for my education. You never know if someone is lying or telling the truth. Sometimes lying is good but other times lying is very bad. There is no black or white with lying it is more of a grey, it depends on the situation.
You know when you are a child and you really really want a toy, so you hold on to your mom’s leg, you cry and cry make a scene and embarrass her until she buys it. “The child is ‘saying’ ‘Fox, fox, come and get me.’ The only way the parent can stop it screaming is to feed it. So the child gains more than its fair share of food…”(pg 131). We instead of calling the fox we call for attention and embarrass our mothers, that social pressure we put on our poor mother forces her to buy us a new toy we don’t really need. One time on vacations, I was at a toy store and I really wanted this stuffed animal, man I tried hard to get it I cried and cried and made a tantrum but I did not get it. My mom just dragged me out of there, I got so angry that I tried everything until I realized I was too old for this and she was not going to buy it, so I started crying more but now it was out of frustration, my childhood techniques did not work anymore what was I going to do? That was the time I realized that my mom was smart and was not going to buy any of my childhood spoiled actions so from that moment on I think I started doing things for myself instead of waiting for her to do it. It was at that moment I realized I was old and I detached from her feeding and grew. I became the older child looking for its own food.
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